To own your decisions, own your thoughts. To own your thoughts, know your essence. To stay aligned with Essence, own your Presence (in each inevitable moment). Do this for some period of time and you will be surprised how little of your Thought is unique and “your own”.David Harmony
Each day, do you find your self focused more so on being Interesting to others, OR being Interested in others? The old adage is wise… “2 Ears, 1 Mouth”. This is the first step in acquiring Present moment awareness.David Harmony
I’m starting an Adaptive Leadership Meetup group in my home town. I will support virtual attendance through a conferencing solution. Please pass the word, especially those residing in West MI. Thank you
Fear and ‘self’ protection is the basis of all pain and breakdown in Life, and yet, serves as the motivation for Life’s goal – to experience Love through reunion.
Life begins with Thought, seeks Action and then Reflects on those actions taken. Life’s goal is to Feel life – to feel Alive. Life is seeking to Experience Love, whereby [artificially] separate interests eventually realize that there really is a common bond, and they suddenly shift into a mode of cooperating with each other. What was [intentionally] missing is now found.
Life is “lived well” when its goal was met in each exchange of Thought->Action->Reflection. Did we share and experience with accurate perception and interpretation? Did we reflect together and seek to understand the experience through the other person’s senses? Were we completely vulnerable and willing to put US before self interests? Was the resulting feeling Love or Fear? Were the symptoms blissful or painful?
I often overhear conversations in public settings about “what’s wrong with the world”. When we imagine there to be a problem, we actually create it. We must remember that.
On a wonderful Saturday morning, while I was “busy” editing my Video blog post for the week, there was a wonderful sight outside my office window, which has a view of the front porch.
Two smiling gentlemen approached, unaffected by the dog gate they spanned, and knocked confidently on our door.
Because I was totally Present in and seeking Connection with Life, I saw the insignificance of my “video editing effort”, and abandoned it immediately. I beat them to the doorbell, sensing this was going to be special.
A Mantra to Rekindle Presence
The Body naturally lives in the Present moment, but reflects Past choices.
The Mind is too often distracted by the Past or the Future, imposing great damage on the Body.
Thought is the ancestor of all action, or inaction (analysis paralysis). Our Body too often takes a back seat to our Mind, and pays a deadly price.
Our Happiness Metric
The Body is THE best metric* available to evaluate the quality of our shared existence. The imprints of shared experiences are felt within the Body and displayed upon it.
Might sound obvious, so why don’t we include people in decision making?
What I have experienced most often is that, due to imagined risk we are unable to be vulnerable to others. We imagine the physical and emotional costs of being judged or rejected by colleagues, social groups, friends and family. This leaves us guarded and compels us to hide who we really are.
The group culture that we care about and associate with, OR the one we find our self within daily [unwillingly], shapes our degree of openness with others. We are most often unaware of just how much group norms and values influence our own thoughts and behavior.
When the group culture financially supports our personal safety, things can go terribly wrong, especially when our dominant focus in life is skewed towards personal safety. When group culture incentivizes extreme risk avoidance and has no way to objectively determine the true risk avoided nor to offer credit for those who helped to mitigate it, we wind up with fear-based relationships that shut down personal honesty and sincerity of group interaction.