Might sound obvious, so why don’t we include people in decision making?
What I have experienced most often is that, due to imagined risk we are unable to be vulnerable to others. We imagine the physical and emotional costs of being judged or rejected by colleagues, social groups, friends and family. This leaves us guarded and compels us to hide who we really are.
The group culture that we care about and associate with, OR the one we find our self within daily [unwillingly], shapes our degree of openness with others. We are most often unaware of just how much group norms and values influence our own thoughts and behavior.
When the group culture financially supports our personal safety, things can go terribly wrong, especially when our dominant focus in life is skewed towards personal safety. When group culture incentivizes extreme risk avoidance and has no way to objectively determine the true risk avoided nor to offer credit for those who helped to mitigate it, we wind up with fear-based relationships that shut down personal honesty and sincerity of group interaction.
In my direct experience as an employee and a consumer, as a senior leader with responsibility as both a customer and a vendor, and since 2012 as a consultant / advisor helping entire Value-Chains to serve society better, I have detected 3 key things:
Happiness. (A Peaceful Mind and Body)
To be Happy, we must be able to Accept life as it is (right NOW). To truly Accept life, we must BE and Remain, absolutely Present in EACH inevitable moment.
The Body is the best Metric known to mankind. The Body is trying to remind us through our 5 senses, how Present and Aware we are [not]. The Body uses Pain and Pleasure to reclaim our Conscious Attention.
Subtle cues are missed over time, and become [obvious] surprises.
Unfortunately, [although we won’t admit it] many of us are severely uninspired. We would like to help and serve others, but we do not feel invited, capable, or energetic enough to do so.
Additionally, we are so concerned about “our self” that often our own focus is based solely on just surviving (personally, or taking care of just those we love). True inspiration is far bigger than our self.
Fear drives us to attempt to control life scenarios and outcomes. It is logical to reduce negative impacts and maximize positive impacts, for our own sake. However, our perception of the risks and benefit of our [in]action is often misleading. If we are too aggressive in mitigating the “risk”, then the outcomes are sub optimized and our fears are affirmed, oddly enough through our very own [in]action – the same energy used to mitigate the risk.
Consider for a moment, the amount of energy, talent and support that went into manufacturing, marketing and distributing the supplies and clothing that allow you to get ready for work each day.
Personal Reality Check…
- Did YOU do that alone?
- How many thousands of individuals supported you in your otherwise mundane daily endeavor?
- Do you feel a new sense of accountability to them for helping you get ready each day?
- Do you feel a new sense of accountability to the people who your own products and services support each day?
I truly hope so.
To realize accountability requires shared ownership in the desired outcomes. Please consider this logic sequence …
- Responsibility for outcomes is a choice.
- Choices that we make consciously, we own the outcomes fully.
- Direction that was set for us, involved no choice. [We actually promote unconscious behavior]
- Direction that is set for us is most often resisted. [Whether age 4 or 40, we do not like this]
- If those [set-for-us] outcomes endanger us personally, we will usually reject our own role in aiding in the group’s recovery.
I am bored, working out alone. I decided to join a gym. Congrats!
Joining a gym can be exciting. So many options – hard to imagine getting bored there. So many people – easy to stay motivated!
I’m feeling anxiety about getting started though.
- Complicated equipment.
- Some people hog the equipment you need
- Some people may want to socialize excessively.
- Too many obstacles and distractions?
David is a Certified Personal Trainer (CPT). He is licensed by the most prominent organization governing credentials of Fitness Trainers in the United States, the National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM). He holds licenses under the following specialities:
- NASM Certified Personal Trainer (CPT) License #1501214810
- NASM Corrective Exercise Specialist (CES): License #1523049
When exercising, turn off the Mind and ‘think with the Body’. Avoid prematurely exhausting the body by intentionally losing track of the effort. Follow this guidance to laser focus on form instead. Avoid artificial goals and see what your body is truly capable of.
When you train anaerobically you must reach a point of failure on your last few reps. If you don’t, then you are robbing yourself of improvement. (read my post on the SAID principle and tell them David-SAID so)
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