Jacob and James – Life’s Expression

Society is not Entitled, it is Disempowered thru Disconnection

I often overhear conversations in public settings about “what’s wrong with the world”.    When we imagine there to be a problem, we actually create it.   We must remember that.

On a wonderful Saturday morning, while I was “busy” editing my Video blog post for the week, there was a wonderful sight outside my office window, which has a view of the front porch.

Two smiling gentlemen approached, unaffected by the dog gate they spanned, and knocked confidently on our door.

Because I was totally Present in and seeking Connection with Life, I saw the insignificance of my “video editing effort”, and abandoned it immediately.  I beat them to the doorbell, sensing this was going to be special.

What is a common desire that evades all of us?

Body->mind connection is the answer

Happiness. (A Peaceful Mind and Body)

To be Happy, we must be able to Accept life as it is (right NOW). To truly Accept life, we must BE and Remain, absolutely Present in EACH inevitable moment.

The Body is the best Metric known to mankind. The Body is trying to remind us through our 5 senses, how Present and Aware we are [not]. The Body uses Pain and Pleasure to reclaim our Conscious Attention.

Subtle cues are missed over time, and become [obvious] surprises.

Unchecked Fear Blocks Inspiration, Connection and Compassion

...but, Fear has a wonderful, hidden purpose

Unfortunately, [although we won’t admit it] many of us are severely uninspired.  We would like to help and serve others, but we do not feel invitedcapable, or energetic enough to do so.

Additionally, we are so concerned about “our self” that often our own focus is based solely on just surviving (personally, or taking care of just those we love).   True inspiration is far bigger than our self.

Fear drives us to attempt to control life scenarios and outcomes.   It is logical to reduce negative impacts and maximize positive impacts, for our own sake.    However, our perception of the risks and benefit of our [in]action is often misleading.  If we are too aggressive in mitigating the “risk”, then the outcomes are sub optimized and our fears are affirmed, oddly enough through our very own [in]action – the same energy used to mitigate the risk.

Did I Do That [Alone]?

Dare to consider every day, how reliant you are on Everyone.

Consider for a moment, the amount of energy, talent and support that went into manufacturing, marketing and distributing the supplies and clothing that allow you to get ready for work each day.

Personal Reality Check…

  • Did YOU do that alone?
  • How many thousands of individuals supported you in your otherwise mundane daily endeavor?
  • Do you feel a new sense of accountability to them for helping you get ready each day?
  • Do you feel a new sense of accountability to the people who your own products and services support each day?

I truly hope so.

Don’t be too quick to dismiss this example as trivial or irrelevant.   Is a Politician’s daily effort more crucial than a Toothpaste manufacturer?   How would he/she make an appearance on TV [yet again], without that tailored suit?

Don’t judge what we do and the value of that to us personally – our Perception is rather biased and disconnected from shared reality.   Please, do challenge yourself about how conscious [appreciative] we are about our reliance on each other, for ALL activities in Life.

My goal is to work with you and your organization to remember and renew such shared accountability.


Question

So how do we realize accountability, TO others and FROM others?

Please share your own perspective below.

Presence & Acceptance yields Happiness

A Mantra to Rekindle Presence

The Body naturally lives in the Present moment, but reflects Past choices.

The Mind is too often distracted by the Past or the Future, imposing great damage on the Body.

Thought is the ancestor of all action, or inaction (analysis paralysis).  Our Body too often takes a back seat to our Mind, and pays a deadly price.


Our Happiness Metric

The Body is THE best metric* available to evaluate the quality of our shared existence.   The imprints of shared experiences are felt within the Body and displayed upon it.

  • Is a constant smile or frown reflecting how the Body truly feels, or is the Mind working overtime?  
    • We should present our true self to others, to reduce misunderstandings.
  • Is a nagging pain [physical or mental] seeking your attention and resolution?  
    • Too often we avoid “maintenance” and “rush to the Emergency Room” when we experience a total failure.
  • Are we experiencing social clashes or harmonious cooperation at macro levels?
    • What we do not own personally, transcends us and becomes OUR collective issue.

Are we paying attention to the feedback from the Body?

Conscious living in the Present moment, will return us to a balance of Attention, Connection, and Compassion, for our self and for every Thing we experience that is outside of ourself.


Artificial Problems – Just Disconnection

We all wish to be totally Happy.   Why does happiness evade us?

The solution to most problems resides in silencing the Mind and Feeling# your way through the situation, IN the physical company of others (not alone in our Mind).   Please do not confuse isolated Intuition with Shared Physical Experience.

Too often, we fail to observe, adapt and express what we truly feel, or to appropriately respond to what someone else is feeling (and actively “wearing it on their sleeve”).   Our shared curiosity for how the other is feeling (and thinking) leads to shared affirmation and ultimately a Shared Reality.  

We can only influence and be influenced through Shared Reality.  

Assuming our understanding of Life and our impact on it, is the origin of the “problem”.

Too often, our Mind causes us to blindly react to situations that we’ve misinterpreted.   Over a lifetime our perception becomes a personal reality – and extremely flawed, which expedites our own feeling of separation from others.   Have you ever uttered? …

… My thoughts and my approach to life are correct … people just don’t understand ME.  

Correct, but from both perspectives – neither you nor the other person are curious enough to share the reality between you.  

The Mind, operating alone and in isolation (from others), creates a self-fulfilling prophecy which validates our Fear – that we are alone in a hyper aggressive world that doesn’t support us.   Worse yet, we pass on this flawed personal belief system – that we are separate from others – passing it on on to our loved ones, our social groups, and our communities.   We become the host cell for Cancer.


Key Point

We need to remember that the Mind is IN the Body, and to put things back in proper order.   Mind must serve the Body.   There is too much talk about Mind->Body connection, suggesting that we lead reality with the Mind and the Body is just an instrument to express what the Mind desires.   Quite backwards and unfortunate!   We have “put the cart before the horse”.


To Take Action or Not?

If what I suggest above feels wrong to you, I hope we eventually cross paths in our lifetime, and politely wish you well.   If you’re feeling skeptical and want more info, please track my messages and  speaking events.  But please participate, to challenge your Belief System.

If the perspective above [or throughout this site] resonates with you and you’re curious enough of how I can help, give me a call.

Together, let’s explore ways to improve THE daily experience of Life?

I have spent my entire life helping others enjoy a wonderful Life, getting out of their own Way OF Happiness.   I assist in humble, discrete ways, customized to the need of the individual.  


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I am deeply honored, to help you, maximize your Presence in Life.  – David


*I’m not referring to how tone the Body is, but more so, how at Peace it is, and how ready and able it is to Respond to how we wish to act in the next Present moment

#The Body’s 5 senses shape our perception over a lifetime.   Without affirmation from others, misperception creates our separation from others.

The little things mean everything

You are tired from a busy 1st workday on the road.   You check into your familiar weekly-stay hotel.   You enter your room to find it wasn’t cleaned yet.   A polite call to the front desk yields a quick and genuine display of compassion.

As you continue your business calls in-room, the key to a clean room is slid under your door.

You enter your 2nd room to find a clean dish set, bottles of ‘cold’ water and chocolates, the later not a typical part of your experience and the former something you typically must retrieve from the front desk.

One person’s humble acts of compassion shape and inspire your day.